When a Child Passes On. Twelve Messages for Their Loved Ones

From the website, http://www.soulproof.com

                            When a Child Passes On . . . 12 Messages for Their Loved Ones

I am very sorry for the passing of your loved one and all the pain and sadness that can go with it. That is one of, if not the biggest, changes a person can go through. When a child transitions, you can grieve horribly for the rest of your life and no one will judge you for it. But there’s another way. Some bereaved parents have been able to upgrade their emotions of sadness, anger, and pain toward higher energy ones such as gratitude for their time together, enthusiasm about seeing each other again, and loving service to others. Here are twelve keys to moving in that direction . . .

1. Remember that no one really dies. Yes, the physical body died. However, that outer shell is much less than 1% of who and what he actually is. The rest—all the love, energy, consciousness, intelligence, spirit, light—continues on into the next phase of forever. Death is an optical illusion because of our limited brain and sense organs. The Soul Proof book and documentary film shares the clinical, scientific, and empirical evidence that we each are timeless beings of energy/spirit/ consciousness. You now have more urgency to learn about the other 99.9% of who you and your child really are. In doing so, you’ll become a brighter light in the world.

2. Know that you will see each other again. 75% of bereaved family members have after-death contacts (ADCs) involving the usual or subtler senses. These can occur while awake or dreaming and have been proven to be more than imagination or wishful thinking. Stay alert for unexpected encounters, unexplainable events, lucid dreams, or alterations in electrical device functioning. And, you will definitely see each other again when you pass on to the next phase of forever and have a wonderful reunion. To remember this great news, avoid using phrases such as “death” or “I lost my child” and upgrade them to “my child transitioned/graduated/changed worlds.”

3. Realize your child was likely an evolved or “old” soul. Souls, whether housed in five or ninety-five year-old bodies, change worlds when they have completed their earthly missions. Your child didn’t have major lessons to learn, thus her brief visit to planet earth. Some children leave clues that their time on earth is short: they are more loving and compassionate than usual or have a sense of urgency to experience all they can while they can.

4. Create meaning for your departed loved ones life. One way to reenter the flow of life is to honor your child’s life in some way. Some parents help the needy in their child’s name while others start foundations or scholar-ships. Some help start a Helping Parents Heal group while others work to prevent needless injuries from drunk drivers, preventable accidents, or medical treatment abuses. The Ask Your Soul CD uses deep relaxation and can help you identify how to create more meaning to her passing and help you heal.

5. Understand that God didn’t take your child away. Avoid getting caught up in excess anger toward inaccurate religious teachings and personified images of God. We each are part of Source Energy right now. Archaic notions of a huge bearded guy in the sky who decides when and how someone crosses over are never useful, especially when a child is involved.

6. Be aware that your child’s passing helps you and others grow and learn. The old saying “That which does not kill me makes me stronger” is absolutely true. Just imagine how wise and compassionate you can become after struggling with such pain. The physical death of a child—much like near-death experiences, severe accidents, being in war, etc.—can awaken you to the vastness of life that usually escapes the five senses. You will be more motivated to find good answers to life’s toughest questions such as those in The Eleven Questions: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Life, Death, and Afterlife. Our and your answers can develop your spiritual muscles and help you remember who you really are and why you’re here.

7. Take optimal care of yourself. The physical death of a child is a huge stressor to the body and mind, especially if you are already out of balance due to post-pregnancy nutritional deficiencies or other causes. As discussed in Radiant Wellness, take time for rest, exercise, healthy diet, and stress reducing centering practices such as meditation, prayer, yoga, time in nature, gardening, playing with pets, etc. The Transformational Breath Work CD is a powerful way to release accumulated stress and old wounds.

8. Realize that death by any means is a ticket back Home. Passing on—whether by illness, accident, murder, or suicide—is a way to move on from this earth-experience. The soul/essence usually decides when physical death is timely, even during some suicides. Impulsive actions, intractable physical or mental pain, drug or alcohol abuse, nutritional imbalances and other factors can also cause a person to end his earth-experience. In any case, your loved one didn’t want to hurt or leave you. If strife preceded his passing, that was a sign of his pain and imbalance. Treasure your happy times together in the past and look forward to new ones in the future.

9. Consider the possibility that you and your child agreed, on a soul level, to participate in this scenario. Your infinite self likely entered into a soul contract to be part of this painful slice of life. Why? The short answer: to assist the plan of your child’s soul so you both could grow and serve others. This earth-experience is very much like a play or movie. Your child needed someone to play the role of parent, grandparent, sibling, etc. and you agreed. Your life may seem like a senseless nightmare right now, but I guarantee that someday—and you don’t have to wait until you die—you will see the big picture and understand the cosmic view of all this.

10. Assemble a holistic care team. Avoid prescription drugs whenever possible because of negative side-effects and potential for addiction. Find an integrative medical doctor who understands the power of natural healing and uses medications only when absolutely necessary. Consider one or more of the following to tune-up your body-mind: counseling, specific chiropractic, acupuncture, massage, and homeopathy. Energy balancing techniques and mediums may also be excellent resources. I recommendNutrition Response Testing to evaluate key organs—especially the brain and endocrine glands— and how to strengthen those with a real food diet and whole food Standard Process Visit www.unsinc.info to find the nearest practitioner.

11. Know that your child wants you to be happy now. Your child’s soul is very near and wants you to enjoy life again. She can feel your emotions and is urging you to awaken to the great news that life and love are eternal. Don’t blame yourself about anything you did or didn’t do or say since many details had to align for the timing and way your loved one transitioned. Enjoy your life fully on earth while you can. That will honor your child’s gifts and life and allow her to best experience the next page of life’s never-ending saga.

12. Benefit from loving support and wise information. This is the time to ask for help and lean on others. Consider joining a church or organization that offers spiritual wisdom, loving fellowship, and opportunities for service to others. Helping Parents Heal provides support, networking, an enlightened perspective, and personal transformation strategies. It discusses the afterlife evidence and all the hope and inspiration that accompany it. I’ve posted a series of articles that can help you survive and even thrive through this and other life challenges. They are posted on the home page of my website www.soulproof.com under Foundational Articles for Healing and Transforming.

So, here you are in a new moment and an important fork in your life’s road. Will you look for the silver linings to this cloud and bless yourself and others? Only you can choose how you will react to this difficult time. The old saying, “Two men looked through prison bars. One saw mud, the other stars,” reminds you that you can choose your perspective. I hope this information helps you to heal and transform yourself, others, and our world for the better. Let me know how I can help.

Watch Near Death Experience Documentary: Conversations with God

near-death-experienceThis older, one-hour documentary hosted by Joseph Campanella features people who have had near-death experiences (NDE) who share their fascinating personal accounts. Especially intriguing information is offered by Dannion Brinkley (author of Saved by the Light), who had his first near-death experience after being struck by lightning, was resuscitated, and continued to live with multiple medical problems, yet with a positive attitude. He then had a second NDE years later while in the hospital, and again returned to life. Medical experts and well-known authors who have specialized in the subject provide convincing factual evidence that these experiences are real events that occur as part of the transition from life to death, not brain chemical-induced hallucinations or delusions caused by shock. Many individuals (including some very small children) remember similar things, such as being in the presence of a loving being with whom they could wordlessly communicate and together reviewed their lives. A striking aspect of these experiences is that most of the people who have had them seem to no longer have a fear of death.

Also featured are Grace Bubulka, Dianne Morrissey, Dr. Raymond Moody, Dr. Melvin Morse, Dr. Larry Dossey, and Paul Perry.  


Dr. Rajiv Parti is in the house, March 14th – Don’t miss this one!


                                                                            Rajiv Parti, MD



DATE AND TIME:   March 14, 2015, 1:00pm to 4:00pm

PLACE:  Unity of Tustin, 14402 Prospect Ave., Tustin, CA (Drive to the back of the church, turn left, and park. Enter 2nd door you come to). Directions on our website, http://www.OrangeCountyIANDS.com


In 2005, Dr. Rajiv Parti, an anesthesiologist, encountered the first of a series of life-threatening health challenges: a cancer diagnosis followed by four operations. Afterwards he developed addiction to the pain medications he once prescribed for others and severe depression from pain and the pills he became addicted to.

Dr. Parti had to endure seven surgeries for the cancer and ensuing complications. During his 7th surgery, dying from sepsis with a 105 degree fever, Dr. Parti left his body to hang above the operating room, his consciousness fully intact. He was then suddenly tossed into a horrific darkness, a living hell, where he experienced a bewildering life review. This was followed by a visitation from his dead, abusive father who imparted his son with profound guidance and eternal truths that would change everything in his life. This stunning experience revealed to Dr. Parti his true purpose in this lifetime – to help others forgive, love and heal. His soul contract, his dharma, became that of a spiritual healer of the soul, especially the pain and suffering that comes from diseases such as addiction and depression.

Dr. Parti now helps others overcome their own personal suffering. Gone are the days of Dr. Parti putting people to sleep; his mission now is to wake them up.

Today, the insights gained from his NDE has propelled Dr. Parti to several write books, speak around the world and offer compelling, transformative workshops on spiritual wellness. Dr. Parti contends that no one has to endure an NDE to heal from suffering. Dr. Parti teaches others that transformative healing is available right now if we choose to forgive ourselves and others, while practicing self-love and selfless acts of service.

Dr. Parti’s website: http://www.drparti.com/

Christian Minister’s NDE: Saved from Horrifying Darkness, Followed by Light, Healing Miracles

Mickey Robinson, born a Roman Catholic, now a Christian minister and author of Falling Into Heaven, recounts his 1968 near-death experience when the plane he was in exploded.  He was only 19 years old.  As the facilitator of Orange County IANDS and in my own personal interest and research into near-death experiences, he reports something I have not yet heard from other experiencers.  At the moment he revived and came back into his body, only momentarily he heard himself speaking a beautiful language, one he had never heard before.

Mickey has a pleasing low-key, matter-of-fact way style of communication in which he tells his story to Sid Roth, a messianic Jew and host of the Sid Roth-It’s Supernatural show.

A further search on Youtube will produce many interviews of Mickey.  I came across one in which the host invites him to say a prayer for all the listeners.  It may have a different effect for you, but the prayer had a calming peaceful effect on me which has lasted throughout the day.  I’m not a Christian so as I heard the references to Jesus Christ, I just replaced them with words which reflect my personal beliefs, ‘God’, ‘My Creator’, ‘Higher Power.’  The prayer in the following video starts at the 4 minute mark.

In view of Robin William’s suicide, Dr. Raymond Moody talks about suicide

Dr. Raymond Moody is a psychiatrist and NDE (near-death experience) researcher who’s most famous as an author of books about life after death and NDEs, a term that he coined in 1975 in his best-selling book Life After Life.

It is a series of short clips of Dr. Moody talking about suicide. One of his key points:  attempters who did not have an NDE before revival will consistently attempt suicide again. Attempters who DID have NDEs will not attempt again. Thank you so much Dr Moody for sharing this with us!

Anyone interested in learning more about near-death experiences, visit www.iands.org.

A woman’s story of her brutal death by husband and subsequent NDE

All invited to listen to Ana Christina’s very personal story of living with an oppressive, ruthless mate which lead to one last brutalization, leaving her dead. What followed was a magnificent near-death experience and spiritual journey.   

Ana is the author of  My Sweet Encounter of Death available on Amazon.

Date:     Saturday, ​ August 9, 2014​
Time:    1:00-4:00 pm
Place:    Unity of Tustin, Tustin, CA 


Unity Church of Tustin, 14402 Prospect Ave., Tustin, CA. Drive to the back of the church, turn left, and park. Enter the 2nd door you come to.


OC IANDS exists for people in the ​Orange County and surrounding  area​s​ who have had a near-death and/or related experiences or who have personal or professional interest in such experiences. The group provides a forum in which to discuss such experiences and their meaning and integration into subsequent life.

Discussion takes place in an atmosphere of openness and interest/support without judgment, proselytizing, or advice-giving.

Although we meet in a ​Unity  church, the group is not affiliated with any specific religion. The church is conveniently located, and they ​allow us to use a ​classroom.

Those who attend and who can afford to do so are asked to make a $1​0​ contribution to the church for our use of ​their room.

Meeting on June 14, 2014 with Speaker JAVIER PERAZA, Tustin, CA

Javier Peraza
Javier Peraza

On March 30, 2006 at 4:11AM, Javier experienced a Distressing/Negative NDE-Like event that forever changed his life, 180 degrees, overnight.

A sort of Metamorphosis transformed him from an emotionally distant, disconnected robot into an empathic, energetic human being.  The most fundamental of his dogmas/philosophies were dramatically altered:

  1. From believing in the Finality of Existence, to knowing a Continuum of Creation.
  2. From feeling Insecure and being Anti-Social, to living Carpe Diem.
  3. From hoarding Riches, to having Rags, to sharing Riches.

The incorporation of and acclimation to this new Self did not come without a hefty price, literally and figuratively.  It took 7 years of self-destructive behavior and soul-searching adventures that ultimately culminated with his arrival at the OC IANDS Group on January 12, 2013.

Since that fateful Saturday afternoon, he has continued attending meetings and sharing whatever bits and pieces of his story that might help those in attendance. On June 14, 2014, for the first time, he will tell the whole story…

2013 Annual IANDS Conference 8/29-9/1/13


2013 Annual IANDS Conference

August 29th – September 1st, 2013

Sheraton Crystal City Hotel  |  Arlington, Virginia

 The loss of a loved one can bring overwhelming grief and deep questioning —

Where is my loved one?
How is my loved  one doing?
Will we ever be together again?
How can I go on?

Near-death experiences give a perspective on death that truly inspires hope and provides answers for those who  are grieving the loss of
their loved one.

Open to all. Registration now open. Follow the link for conference details, registration, featured speakers, workshops and more.


Life-changing audio interview-the afterlife, reincarnation, our soul

I highly recommend listening to this interview from September 11, 2012 with George Noory, radio host of CoasttoCoastAM.  It had a profound effect on my life, where I now just roll with the day-to-day life events without the struggle.   Journalist and filmmaker Rich Martini discusses his incredible journey finding evidence for the afterlife, life between lives, and “soul groups”; how when we’re between lives, we plan the circumstances of our next life, when the soul enters the body – and there’s a little surprise about that – and much, much more.  It’s a 3 hour interview, but I didn’t want it to end!

He also touched on his extensive research into the fate of Amelia Earhart, for which he also made a documentary detailing what actually happened to her.  This, too, is a fascinating story.

Grab a cup of coffee or tea, get comfortable, here’s the interview.  There’s an unrelated interview that precedes it with Stewart Rhodes, founder of the Oath Keepers, where he talks about changes that have taken place in post 9-11 America. He contends the 9-11 attacks were used as an excuse to dismantle the Bill of Rights.  If you wish to skip that, scroll forward to 38 minutes 30 seconds where the Martini interview begins.

Here’s the link to Rich Martini’s site where you can find his book, Flipside: A Tourist’s Guide on How To Navigate the Afterlifewhere you can watch his documentary, Flipside, online for only $5.  There’s also a link to where you can watch his 70 minute documentary on Amelia Earhart, Earhart’s Electra, for free if you’re in the U.S.  There’s a lot more of interest on the site as well.