When a Child Passes On. Twelve Messages for Their Loved Ones

From the website, http://www.soulproof.com

                            When a Child Passes On . . . 12 Messages for Their Loved Ones

I am very sorry for the passing of your loved one and all the pain and sadness that can go with it. That is one of, if not the biggest, changes a person can go through. When a child transitions, you can grieve horribly for the rest of your life and no one will judge you for it. But there’s another way. Some bereaved parents have been able to upgrade their emotions of sadness, anger, and pain toward higher energy ones such as gratitude for their time together, enthusiasm about seeing each other again, and loving service to others. Here are twelve keys to moving in that direction . . .

1. Remember that no one really dies. Yes, the physical body died. However, that outer shell is much less than 1% of who and what he actually is. The rest—all the love, energy, consciousness, intelligence, spirit, light—continues on into the next phase of forever. Death is an optical illusion because of our limited brain and sense organs. The Soul Proof book and documentary film shares the clinical, scientific, and empirical evidence that we each are timeless beings of energy/spirit/ consciousness. You now have more urgency to learn about the other 99.9% of who you and your child really are. In doing so, you’ll become a brighter light in the world.

2. Know that you will see each other again. 75% of bereaved family members have after-death contacts (ADCs) involving the usual or subtler senses. These can occur while awake or dreaming and have been proven to be more than imagination or wishful thinking. Stay alert for unexpected encounters, unexplainable events, lucid dreams, or alterations in electrical device functioning. And, you will definitely see each other again when you pass on to the next phase of forever and have a wonderful reunion. To remember this great news, avoid using phrases such as “death” or “I lost my child” and upgrade them to “my child transitioned/graduated/changed worlds.”

3. Realize your child was likely an evolved or “old” soul. Souls, whether housed in five or ninety-five year-old bodies, change worlds when they have completed their earthly missions. Your child didn’t have major lessons to learn, thus her brief visit to planet earth. Some children leave clues that their time on earth is short: they are more loving and compassionate than usual or have a sense of urgency to experience all they can while they can.

4. Create meaning for your departed loved ones life. One way to reenter the flow of life is to honor your child’s life in some way. Some parents help the needy in their child’s name while others start foundations or scholar-ships. Some help start a Helping Parents Heal group while others work to prevent needless injuries from drunk drivers, preventable accidents, or medical treatment abuses. The Ask Your Soul CD uses deep relaxation and can help you identify how to create more meaning to her passing and help you heal.

5. Understand that God didn’t take your child away. Avoid getting caught up in excess anger toward inaccurate religious teachings and personified images of God. We each are part of Source Energy right now. Archaic notions of a huge bearded guy in the sky who decides when and how someone crosses over are never useful, especially when a child is involved.

6. Be aware that your child’s passing helps you and others grow and learn. The old saying “That which does not kill me makes me stronger” is absolutely true. Just imagine how wise and compassionate you can become after struggling with such pain. The physical death of a child—much like near-death experiences, severe accidents, being in war, etc.—can awaken you to the vastness of life that usually escapes the five senses. You will be more motivated to find good answers to life’s toughest questions such as those in The Eleven Questions: Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Life, Death, and Afterlife. Our and your answers can develop your spiritual muscles and help you remember who you really are and why you’re here.

7. Take optimal care of yourself. The physical death of a child is a huge stressor to the body and mind, especially if you are already out of balance due to post-pregnancy nutritional deficiencies or other causes. As discussed in Radiant Wellness, take time for rest, exercise, healthy diet, and stress reducing centering practices such as meditation, prayer, yoga, time in nature, gardening, playing with pets, etc. The Transformational Breath Work CD is a powerful way to release accumulated stress and old wounds.

8. Realize that death by any means is a ticket back Home. Passing on—whether by illness, accident, murder, or suicide—is a way to move on from this earth-experience. The soul/essence usually decides when physical death is timely, even during some suicides. Impulsive actions, intractable physical or mental pain, drug or alcohol abuse, nutritional imbalances and other factors can also cause a person to end his earth-experience. In any case, your loved one didn’t want to hurt or leave you. If strife preceded his passing, that was a sign of his pain and imbalance. Treasure your happy times together in the past and look forward to new ones in the future.

9. Consider the possibility that you and your child agreed, on a soul level, to participate in this scenario. Your infinite self likely entered into a soul contract to be part of this painful slice of life. Why? The short answer: to assist the plan of your child’s soul so you both could grow and serve others. This earth-experience is very much like a play or movie. Your child needed someone to play the role of parent, grandparent, sibling, etc. and you agreed. Your life may seem like a senseless nightmare right now, but I guarantee that someday—and you don’t have to wait until you die—you will see the big picture and understand the cosmic view of all this.

10. Assemble a holistic care team. Avoid prescription drugs whenever possible because of negative side-effects and potential for addiction. Find an integrative medical doctor who understands the power of natural healing and uses medications only when absolutely necessary. Consider one or more of the following to tune-up your body-mind: counseling, specific chiropractic, acupuncture, massage, and homeopathy. Energy balancing techniques and mediums may also be excellent resources. I recommendNutrition Response Testing to evaluate key organs—especially the brain and endocrine glands— and how to strengthen those with a real food diet and whole food Standard Process Visit www.unsinc.info to find the nearest practitioner.

11. Know that your child wants you to be happy now. Your child’s soul is very near and wants you to enjoy life again. She can feel your emotions and is urging you to awaken to the great news that life and love are eternal. Don’t blame yourself about anything you did or didn’t do or say since many details had to align for the timing and way your loved one transitioned. Enjoy your life fully on earth while you can. That will honor your child’s gifts and life and allow her to best experience the next page of life’s never-ending saga.

12. Benefit from loving support and wise information. This is the time to ask for help and lean on others. Consider joining a church or organization that offers spiritual wisdom, loving fellowship, and opportunities for service to others. Helping Parents Heal provides support, networking, an enlightened perspective, and personal transformation strategies. It discusses the afterlife evidence and all the hope and inspiration that accompany it. I’ve posted a series of articles that can help you survive and even thrive through this and other life challenges. They are posted on the home page of my website www.soulproof.com under Foundational Articles for Healing and Transforming.

So, here you are in a new moment and an important fork in your life’s road. Will you look for the silver linings to this cloud and bless yourself and others? Only you can choose how you will react to this difficult time. The old saying, “Two men looked through prison bars. One saw mud, the other stars,” reminds you that you can choose your perspective. I hope this information helps you to heal and transform yourself, others, and our world for the better. Let me know how I can help.

Afterlife Interview with the Two San Bernardino Shooters

First, a little background on the Youtube Channel, ‘Channeling Erik‘.  Elise is the mother of Erik Medhus who, at 20 years old, took his own life on October 6, 2009. Overwhelmed with grief and despair, it propelled her to search for answers,  many of which came from an unexpected source…Erik, himself.  He began to visit friends and family, eventually sharing insight and wisdom from what he had learned from the Other Side. Each video on Channeling Erik explores the true nature of death, the afterlife, reality, the soul and the human experience — as told by Erik.

In the following interview translated by medium, Kim Babcock, you’ll notice that at 12:14, you hear Tashfeen Malik answer, “ISIS.” It’s clearly not Kim’s voice and overlaps with what she says next. Kim’s website:  www.kimbabcock.net

You’ll see a comment (excerpt below) from Rich Martini, a friend of OC IANDS and author of A Tourist’s Guide to Navigating the Afterlife and It’s a Wonderful Afterlife, www.RichMartini.com.

Rich said:  This clip is bound to cause controversy for those without any context. In the first portion of the session the “shooter” tries to explain what her spiritual reasons were for this event happening – and it’s aligned with the same stories I’ve heard from people under deep hypnosis (“flipside”) talking about previous lifetimes where they were considered “evil” or their actions were considered evil. She tries to explain how it fits into a spiritual progression, but hard for someone to wrap their mind around if they haven’t been exposed to this kind of information in the past. But in the second portion she gives something of her reasons for her actions from a human perspective – that idea of being so “filled with rage” that she couldn’t see others as anything but infidels, to use a religious term. But the roots of this rage come from so many places, from drone operators telling us how they’ve blown up wedding parties, videos of children in Syria talking about their families blown up by bombs, and that relentless feeling of powerlessness some people feel, which fuels their rage. It’s so fascinating that she tries to tie it together with the idea of the planet needing for people to “feel more connected” and I think she’s talking about seeing what our actions bring about. But again, this video will be extremely difficult for loved ones of victims to stumble across without any context – it’s not what Tashfeen says – but what thousands say over and over again in the research – that once we cross over, we feel no pain, have no trauma or sadness, and can see with clearer eyes why events occur. I think you did a fantastic job of interviewing her, and she even revealed a number of things (“new information”) that haven’t been revealed by the authorities – that it was his uncle who helped finance the operation, that there’s a written list of the other “soft” targets they might have visited afterwards, and they trained in Afghanistan (or a place just like it).

In view of Robin William’s suicide, Dr. Raymond Moody talks about suicide

Dr. Raymond Moody is a psychiatrist and NDE (near-death experience) researcher who’s most famous as an author of books about life after death and NDEs, a term that he coined in 1975 in his best-selling book Life After Life.

It is a series of short clips of Dr. Moody talking about suicide. One of his key points:  attempters who did not have an NDE before revival will consistently attempt suicide again. Attempters who DID have NDEs will not attempt again. Thank you so much Dr Moody for sharing this with us!

Anyone interested in learning more about near-death experiences, visit www.iands.org.

Meeting on June 14, 2014 with Speaker JAVIER PERAZA, Tustin, CA

Javier Peraza
Javier Peraza

On March 30, 2006 at 4:11AM, Javier experienced a Distressing/Negative NDE-Like event that forever changed his life, 180 degrees, overnight.

A sort of Metamorphosis transformed him from an emotionally distant, disconnected robot into an empathic, energetic human being.  The most fundamental of his dogmas/philosophies were dramatically altered:

  1. From believing in the Finality of Existence, to knowing a Continuum of Creation.
  2. From feeling Insecure and being Anti-Social, to living Carpe Diem.
  3. From hoarding Riches, to having Rags, to sharing Riches.

The incorporation of and acclimation to this new Self did not come without a hefty price, literally and figuratively.  It took 7 years of self-destructive behavior and soul-searching adventures that ultimately culminated with his arrival at the OC IANDS Group on January 12, 2013.

Since that fateful Saturday afternoon, he has continued attending meetings and sharing whatever bits and pieces of his story that might help those in attendance. On June 14, 2014, for the first time, he will tell the whole story…

Two Upcoming Conferences of Interest

ACISTE Conference 2013, Hilton-Crystal City, Arlington, VA
October 3-5, 2013

Keynote speaker:  Bruce Greyson, MD

ACISTE provides education and certificate training for mental health professionals, pastoral counselors, spiritual counselors and other professionals who wish to increase their competency and develop their expertise in working with clients who may have psychological, spiritual or mental health challenges related to their spiritually transformative experiences (STEs). STEs may include, but are not limited to, near-death or similar experiences, spiritual emergencies,out-of-body, kundalini, after-death communications and anomalous, paranormal or exceptional human experiences, etc. The conference brings together top researchers, experiencers and practicing professionals to present their expertise and insight into in this growing field of specialization and awareness.



2013 IANDS Conference, Arlington Virginia
August 29-September 1, 2013

Keynote Speakers:  Eben Alexander III, MD, Anita Moorjani, Mary Neal, M.D.

The loss of a loved one can bring overwhelming grief and deep questioning — Where is my loved one? How is my loved one doing? Will we ever be together again? How can I go on now without my loved one?

Near-death experiences give a perspective on death that truly inspires hope and provides answers for those who are grieving the loss of their loved one.


2013 Annual IANDS Conference 8/29-9/1/13


2013 Annual IANDS Conference

August 29th – September 1st, 2013

Sheraton Crystal City Hotel  |  Arlington, Virginia

 The loss of a loved one can bring overwhelming grief and deep questioning —

Where is my loved one?
How is my loved  one doing?
Will we ever be together again?
How can I go on?

Near-death experiences give a perspective on death that truly inspires hope and provides answers for those who  are grieving the loss of
their loved one.

Open to all. Registration now open. Follow the link for conference details, registration, featured speakers, workshops and more.